3 Reasons Why Guys are Scared of Commitment in Relationships

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It’s a common thing to hear women say; ‘this guy is childish’, or ‘that guy is irresponsible’ just because the said guy is yet to make up his mind about what he really wants.

 

You say, ‘look at him, he has all there is to have, but he does not want to settle down, he does not want to commit.’

 

People tell you, your friends can’t shut up about how good you look together, yet, bros has still not said anything and you’re starting to lose your cool.

 

What you [ladies] fail to realise when making these assertions is that, a guy who is looking to ‘commit’ in the real sense of the word will proceed cautiously because he wants to be sure to get things right and will not commit until he feels good enough to do so.

 

If you are wondering why he’s holding himself back from committing to you, though, these 3 reasons might answer your question.

 

1. Ghost of girlfriends past

The shadow of mistakes or wounds from past relationships is the number one reason why men shy away from commitments.

 

Men are naturally structured to absorb pain better than women, and are therefore less likely to go do a thread on Twitter, detailing their hurt, after suffering a heartbreak.

 

Do not be fooled, though. Women break guys’ heart all the time, too, and the fact that we don’t hear much of it does not mean it does not happen.

 

If a guy has had his heart shattered, do not expect him to be keen on having a repeat of the experience.

 

2. Unwilling to let go of their freedom

 

As you might have guessed already, a lot of guys worry that a committed relationship will mean the end of their freedom.

 

I know many ladies reading this will be fuming, or shaking their heads in disgust, saying something about how men are just irresponsible and all.

 

That might be true, but what is also true is that everyone deserves to live life at their pace.

 

Let him get used to the fact that his time is not just his anymore, and that he will be sharing a lot of himself with someone else now.

 

When he’s cool with that, he’ll be ready commit. Till then, keep calm.

3. He might be worried about you

 

You are so concerned about getting him to commit to you that you never even thought you might be the problem.

 

Look inwards; what if there’s something about you that’s not right, something putting him off?

 

You know, you might not want to admit it to yourself, but the reason why he’s not committing yet could just be… YOU.

 

Credits: Pulse.NG